Jas, you sure ask easy questions! (not!)
first lines must be centred correctly. Should be less than shoulder width. If front hand is getting tired lines are too far back, if back hand then too far forward. Length should be 22 to 26 inches roughly.
Ok some weird stuff. The length of the harness line has NO relation to whether you can straighten your arms or not. Imagine that there is no harness line and your hook is fastened to the boom itself. You would still be able to lean back with straight arms (though it would sure look weird).
Lets assume line length is reasonable and boom height is around shoulder height or slightly higher. The key thing to weighting the harness hook is your legs. Bending the legs alot (like taking a toilet position) will pull the lines down, bring your body close to the boom and inboard, thus weighthing the board down. Straightening the legs would do the opposite. So, keep your legs almost straight, slight bend in the knee to take the shock of the chop.
Once legs are correct, the arms relax, and you lean out your upper body (assuming the wind is strong enough). the body should lean out square to the board (shoulders, knees, hips, parallel to the board). The arms trim the sail, the weight of the body on the harness hook sheets the sail in.
In very very strong winds most fast sailors will revert to the "pang sai" (toilet) position to help keep the board down (eg in slalom in 30+ knots). In light winds you want to do the opposite, get as much weight off the board as possible.
If you have the time come catch me over the holiday season and I'll set up a simulation using boom and pulleys to explain..